Relationship - thoughts and opinions.

Have you seen some articles referring to single youths who don’t want to have a commitment relationship and also are not interested in any form of sexual relationship?

Their points are – “relationship is difficult to handle”, “there will be no freedom”, “commitment is scary”. I guess they are happy being single. Some of they believe they have enough friends, and relationship will make them lose their friends over.

Not being in a relationship isn’t all bad!

There’s this big misconception out there that being single is an unfortunate relationship status. It could be worst if you are surrounded by couples everywhere. Nothing is more terrible than be asked by your family members during a family gather BBQ. But, if you’re happy being single, then it is nobody’s matters. Perhaps, it is not the right time at the right place, with the right person yet.

Certainly, it doesn’t mean they will be single forever. In fact, they don’t sound like they are losing any fun though. They have more time to think about their careers, travel plan and perhaps study a new skill.

A friend of mine who travelled overseas for a summer course in New York and she decided not to date anyone, even though she has been actively seeking for a relationship here in Sydney. It seen as a mistake to many of her friends, as they thought she could miss out finding her perfect partner. However, she explained that it wouldn’t be good to leave someone if she started seeing him for a few months. It is similar story for those who are travelling for work, holiday or knowing that they are going to move soon.

Another girl who I know that she has been in a relationship with a guy for more than a year, then break-up! So she could travel around the world by herself, especially he didn’t want to travel with her. They just weren’t ready for a committed relationship yet. I also believe that the fear of commitment, is another shape blade that cut off relationship strings. It turns people to stay single instead. Simply they don’t want to put pressure on themselves.

Commitment requires further than celebrating anniversaries together, buying each other some little gifts; it means the couple need to decide things together such as moving, a wedding and even financially investment - buying a car or a house. Some will take it as they are not in position to progress to those stages, while others would wonder “Is he the right guy for me?”.

A common forgotten thing is that couples should speak to each other openly about their plans, their desires.

For singles and people are dating, an ideal relationship can be simply answered via a few direct questions. Most men find it easier to share their future. However, girls may find it is too confronting to ask him anything related to that topic. As she assumed it must be brought up by a man, rather than her. I wonder if my girlfriend told her ex-boyfriend about the travel plan, and some discussion around that would make their relationship continues once she returned to Sydney.